I am learning that I set the tone in my home. My attitude effects my home more than I would like it to. It starts with me. Are my actions lining up with my words? Am I being the example that I need to be? Am I teaching them kindness with my actions? Am I teaching them forgiveness by being forgiving? Am I teaching them mercy and grace with my interactions with them?
Very humbling to know that they are watching and learning from me. I am not talking about learning from what I’m telling them but what I’m showing them. I will be honest, I am not always the best example. Sometimes my patience runs very low. Sometimes I get mad about all the bickering and I start to bicker also. Sometimes I let the pressures of motherhood get me down and affect my attitude.
Attitude: My husband likes to say your attitude effects your altitude. Your attitude can affect how you look at things, how you handle situations, and can effect how you react to others around you. As a parent we want our children to have the right attitude. As a parent we need to have a good attitude throughout our day no matter what is going on around us.
Actions vs Words: Do we practice what we preach? Are we living the attributes that we are trying to teach our children? It is easy to say one thing but yet do another. It is important to lead by example. Our children are watching us, they are learning more from our actions than they are from our words.
Kindness: Being kind is not just saying yes to everything your child wants. It is not just smiling and letting your child do what ever they want. You can be kind but firm all at the same time. You can discipline while still being respectful. We can use our words to help and lead our child, or we can use our words to tare them down. I know I want my children to be kind to each other and to others. I want them to be kind even when someone is not being kind to them. How are they going to learn to be kind to others if we are not kind to them in all situations.
Forgiving: Are we being forgiving? Do you forgive your spouse? Do you forgive your children? Are we showing our children how to forgive others? Do you forgive and move forward? Our children will learn more about forgiveness from us being forgiving. We all mess up. We all make mistakes. We all want another chance. We all want others to forgive us. So let us be forgiving of our children. Remember they are still learning.
Mercy and Grace: God extends mercy and grace to us daily. We seek His forgiveness and we pray for grace as we move forward. Are we extending that same mercy and grace to our children and our spouse. Our children will not learn how to be merciful or gracious to others if we do not treat them with mercy or grace.
If I want a home full of love, forgiveness, kindness, mercy, and grace; It has to start with me. It starts in my heart. I need to make sure that every morning when I wake up that I pray for the right attitude. I need to examine myself and make sure I am being a mother that is leading by example.