Motherhood is messy. Motherhood is sleepless nights. Motherhood is getting your hands dirty. Motherhood doesn’t take sick days. Motherhood is amazing. Motherhood is like nothing else.
So like many people I had preconceived notions of what my children would be like and how I would be the almost perfect mom. I pictured sweet, quiet children sitting at my feet as I read. Children that never argued or raised their voice. I pictured sweet. loving, and always kind children. The problem with the picture I painted in my head was I was picturing perfect children.
I never would have believed that motherhood brought out the best and the worst in me, but it does. I am still learning a lot about myself as a mother. I am learning to recognize my strengths and my weaknesses. I am learning how to connect with each one of my children. I am learning that my children are always changing, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I am learning to be more gracious, and to extend more mercy and grace. I am learning of my need for more grace and how to accept it.
Everyday you wake up and you recommit yourself to motherhood. You make a conscious decision to be aware of your actions, your attitude, your temperament, and your outlook. You make a commitment to be the mother your children need you to be. You commit yourself to the household duties from reading to the little ones to cleaning up another mess.
Recommitting my heart to be a servant. Motherhood is about serving. You have to have the right attitude to be a servant in your home. I know for a fact that I do not always have a servant’s heart. I know that my attitude towards dishes and laundry is not always a good one. So I know that I have to recommit myself daily to keeping my attitude and my heart right. I know that I have to recommit daily to having a Servant’s Heart.
Most important thing to me is recommitting my walk with God. Without the presence of God in my daily life I am not the mother, wife, or person I need to be. Everyday I have to make a conscious decision to take time to read my Bible and pray. I need to make a conscious decision to listen to music that is uplifting, praising God, and draws me closer to Him. I have to make a commitment to my spiritual health daily so I can be the Mother I need to be.
Recommit to Motherhood
Genesis 1: 6-8 6. And God said, Let there be a firmament in the mist of the waters, and let it divide the waters from the waters. 7. And God made the firmament, and divided the waters which were under the firmament from the waters which were above the firmament: and it was so. 8. And God called the firmament Heaven. And the evening and the morning were the first day.
Water is everywhere! Oceans, rivers, ponds, and lakes are just the most obvious places we find water. There is also water under the ground and there is also large amounts of water found in the air. One of the most obvious places water is found in the air is clouds. Clouds are made of mostly water and air. A single cloud may contain one hundred to one thousand tons of water. ( Just for fun identify the clouds: Cirrus clouds, Cumulus clouds, Stratus Clouds and Fog.) Just for fun you can look up YouTube videos on cloud formation.
The air surrounding our Earth is called the atmosphere. Our atmosphere is made up of many gases: 78% Nitrogen, 21% Oxygen, 1% other gases. God created our atmosphere to sustain life. The air around us provides life, protection from the sun, and keeps the earth from getting to hot or to cold.
Moving air is called wind. When air’s molecules heat up they spread out. When warm air expands it becomes less dense than the cool air which causes the warm air to rise. As warm air rises cooler, denser air flows into its place. Air is continually being warmed, and that warm air continually rises. So cool air is continually taking its place. This continual movement of air is what causes wind.
Here are some fun experiments to try: 1. The rain jar. Set several jars throughout your yard in different spots. After your first rain, measure the rain water right away. You need to measure the rain water everyday and record your findings so you can tell how much water evaporated back into the air. We do this during the Spring and Summer months. This is a fun way of studying the water cycle. 2. Make your own wind. Find how many wind sources you can find in your home. 3. Make your own wind mill out of construction paper.
If you have any ideas you would like to share please share them in the comment section.
Genesis 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.
Do you celebrate Earth Day? How do you celebrate? Do you do a special art project? Do you plant a tree? Do you do some special project? Well at the Henry House we take a week to celebrate the Creator and His creation.
When my oldest three children were little they wanted to celebrate Earth Day. So I took out the Bible and read Genesis chapter one. My children drew a cute little picture and we had a special snack. Throughout the day I called it Creation Day. That night I was sad that we only took one day to read and celebrate God’s creation. I realized that I wanted to take a week to Celebrate. So I came up with Creation week.
Day 1: And God said let there be light
I. What is light? Light is energy moving through space from its source to an object, and then from that object to your eye.
II. How fast doe light travel? Light travels faster than anything else that scientists can measure, approximately 186,000 miles a second through space.
III. Can light pass through it? A: Transparent materials. If an object is transparent it allows light to pass straight through it. B: Opaque materials. An opaque object does not allow light to pass through. C: Translucent materials. Translucent materials allow light to pass through but diffuses or scatters the light.
We still do a fun art project. My children like to google and do their own little study on light. You can do your own little experiment with a flash light. You can name all the light sources in your home, natural and manmade. Have fun remember this is a celebration of God’s creation of light.
Tomorrow I will post Day 2 of God’s creation.
It is a new year. I made it through the holidays and we are back to the daily tasks. I have not posted in awhile. I was trying to figure out what direction I wanted to go with my blog. Hmmmmm, I still don’t really know.
Here is the thing. I have six children. One is about to enter his teen years. I have two daughters that are basically preteens. One that I am pretty sure is gifted, and along with that she has her own set of challenges. I have a nonverbal, autistic son that is seven. I have a five year old and a two year old. So many different stages and so many different personalities we have at our table.
I am also a teacher. No, I do not work at a school. I homeschool my children. This is an incredible responsibility. I do not take my job lightly.
Along with being a mother, I am a wife. I love my husband. He is awesome. I love the fact that he is such a great dad, and that we work together as a team. He is the one that kept on encouraging me to start a blog.
So how do I choose what to write about? Do I choose one avenue to write about? Do I continue to write about my house hold and the lessons I learn along the way? So, I got stuck. I really didn’t know what direction to go. Now, I know that I will continue to write about it all. I hope you join me at our table and enjoy the Table for 8.
I am thankful for my Salvation.
I am thankful Jesus left his throne in heaven to come and be born in a manger. I am thankful that He lived a perfect life without sin. I am thankful that He died for me. I am thankful for His gift of Salvation. I am thankful for His Mercy and His Grace. I never deserved His mercy or His grace. I do not deserve a home in heaven. Salvation is not about what I deserve, but what Jesus has done for me.
So, today I am thankful for what Jesus did on the cross. I am thankful for His Salvation.
We all want our children to be thankful and grateful for what they have. We all want to teach thankfulness to our children. It makes our hearts happy when we see our children with a thankful spirit.
Find a jar and cut strips of paper for everyone to write on. Make sure you cut enough strips for everyday leading up to Thanksgiving, and cut enough for each person to have a piece of paper each day. Have everyone write what they are thankful for. On Thanksgiving you can read them out loud. This is so much fun, and you will love everyone’s responses.
From the Henry Home to yours I wish everyone a spirit of thankfulness leading up to Thanksgiving.
I am learning that I set the tone in my home. My attitude effects my home more than I would like it to. It starts with me. Are my actions lining up with my words? Am I being the example that I need to be? Am I teaching them kindness with my actions? Am I teaching them forgiveness by being forgiving? Am I teaching them mercy and grace with my interactions with them?
Very humbling to know that they are watching and learning from me. I am not talking about learning from what I’m telling them but what I’m showing them. I will be honest, I am not always the best example. Sometimes my patience runs very low. Sometimes I get mad about all the bickering and I start to bicker also. Sometimes I let the pressures of motherhood get me down and affect my attitude.
Attitude: My husband likes to say your attitude effects your altitude. Your attitude can affect how you look at things, how you handle situations, and can effect how you react to others around you. As a parent we want our children to have the right attitude. As a parent we need to have a good attitude throughout our day no matter what is going on around us.
Actions vs Words: Do we practice what we preach? Are we living the attributes that we are trying to teach our children? It is easy to say one thing but yet do another. It is important to lead by example. Our children are watching us, they are learning more from our actions than they are from our words.
Kindness: Being kind is not just saying yes to everything your child wants. It is not just smiling and letting your child do what ever they want. You can be kind but firm all at the same time. You can discipline while still being respectful. We can use our words to help and lead our child, or we can use our words to tare them down. I know I want my children to be kind to each other and to others. I want them to be kind even when someone is not being kind to them. How are they going to learn to be kind to others if we are not kind to them in all situations.
Forgiving: Are we being forgiving? Do you forgive your spouse? Do you forgive your children? Are we showing our children how to forgive others? Do you forgive and move forward? Our children will learn more about forgiveness from us being forgiving. We all mess up. We all make mistakes. We all want another chance. We all want others to forgive us. So let us be forgiving of our children. Remember they are still learning.
Mercy and Grace: God extends mercy and grace to us daily. We seek His forgiveness and we pray for grace as we move forward. Are we extending that same mercy and grace to our children and our spouse. Our children will not learn how to be merciful or gracious to others if we do not treat them with mercy or grace.
If I want a home full of love, forgiveness, kindness, mercy, and grace; It has to start with me. It starts in my heart. I need to make sure that every morning when I wake up that I pray for the right attitude. I need to examine myself and make sure I am being a mother that is leading by example.
It is that time of year again. Time to take out, sort through, fold, and hang up our Fall and Winter clothes! Which means time to go through and put away our Spring and Summer clothes.
We have six bags full of light jackets and winter coats. Ones that are to small or to big for anyone to use at this time gets put back in a storage box. Same with the long sleeve shirts and sweaters.
I also make sure everyone has what they need in the correct sizes. Which requires taking out the storage bins. Packing up the sizes that are getting to small and taking out the correct sizes. If my oldest two need something we make a list and go shopping. (My oldest is a boy, my second oldest is a girl.)
I have not posted anything lately because I have been drowning in Laundry!!!! Yes, it has to get done. A seasonal chore that can not be skipped over.
Ladies pull up a seat and let us talk about laundry….
No, I have not discovered the magic portal at the back of the dryer that steals socks. I have not invented a machine that will fold our clothes for us. I am not here to tell you some amazing secret that will solve all your laundry problems.
So, why am I bringing up this ugly subject? Well ladies, we all have laundry. If you have living people in your home, you have laundry. It is something we all have to deal with, unless you have a maid to do it for you.( I know, I know that would be nice.) We all have to face the laundry baskets and hampers at some point before the monster gets out of control.
I really don’t have a secret formula. I am still trying to figure out what system works best for us and what really doesn’t work for us. I have learned what worked two years ago might not work as well right now. Right now what works best is dividing the clothes into four sections: Boys clothes, Girls clothes, Me and Brian’s clothes, and towels . I also found that small loads are more manageable, and makes it easier for the children to help. It also makes it easier to fold and put away. I have folded the same basket of clothes at least 3 to 4 times before because they were not put away quick enough. (That has happened to many times to count.) I have taught my children how to use the washer and dryer. I also start teaching them how to fold at a young age, that is when they are most eager to learn and help. Even Colt who is five can fold pretty well.
Just a little Henry Laundry History: The first 4 1/2 years of marriage I lived in family housing at Mississippi State University. We had to do laundry at the laundry mat on campus or go to my parents house. Not fun at all not having a washer and dryer. So, when my hubby graduated and we moved off campus and I got our first washer and dryer I was beyond thankful and excited. Baby #3 was on the way and I had two little ones 2 and under. So lots of messes and lots of laundry. As much as I really don’t like laundry, I was beyond thankful for the reasons I had so much laundry. Through the years we have added to our household. So that meant I added more and more laundry. There have been times the laundry sat on the loveseat for a little to long. There have been times I folded a basket of clothes so I would have a place to put the clothes coming out of the dryer. There have been times I just wanted to go sit in my closet with a bag of Dove chocolate and a cup of coffee to avoid the laundry baskets. Other times I remember the reason I have all this laundry. I remember what a blessing it is to have a washer and dryer. I remember the little ones that need clean clothes. I remember that laundry in and of itself is a reminder of all my blessings. It is all about perspective.
So ladies, please leave some of your laundry tips in the comment section to share with everyone else. Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.
Schoolroom, spilled juice on the sofa
Cleaned the kitchen
Stay at home mom, homeschooling mom, you would think my house would be spotless. After all I do have all day to keep it clean.
Here is the thing, we live 24/7 in our home. We have 8 people living here, 6 of them are 12 and under. We homeschool, so my children are home all day. I also have a 2 year old and a messy, curious autistic son. So messes happen, they happen a lot!
I am not trying to excuse a messy house. I am just stating that homes get messy at times. Do I leave it a big mess? No, that would drive me crazy. But the fact still remains that during the course of our day things get messy. You might find a pillow pet on the kitchen floor. You might think my main living area looks like a ‘what does not belong’ game. You might find dirty handprints on the wall.
You see I am not perfect. My home gets messy. My children get in trouble. I have clean laundry in a basket waiting to get hung up. I didn’t go grocery shopping this past weekend. I did not make a memu for this week. My husband was kind and got pizza on a Monday night.
So, never look at someone else and compare yourself to them. No Ones life is perfect. No one has it all together all of the time. No one has superpowers. No one can do it all, all of the time.
So ladies be kinder to each other. Let us be more understanding. Let us extend more grace to each other. Let us be more supportive of each other.
From one mom to another. Extend some grace to the lady in the mirror. Don’t be so hard on her. Don’t compare her to everyone else. Give her the same understanding that you give to others.