Love Language

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Five Love Languages:  Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch

Quality time: spending one on one time together.  Word of Affirmation: praise and encouraging words.  Receiving gifts: small or big gifts; even the smallest things mean a lot.  Acts of service: doing things for them.  Physical touch: snuggling, cuddling, and hugs.

My love languages are quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation.  My husband’s top love languages are acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation.

I knew the importance of knowing our love languages.  I really never thought about my children’s love languages.  So last valentine’s day I asked them questions and tried to discover their love languages.  I also asked them again today because as we grow sometimes our needs changes.  Here is what I discovered.

Austin:  His top love language is receiving gifts. Second is words of affirmation. His next one is quality time, and his last is acts of service.

Naomi:  Her top love language is quality time. Second is words of affirmation. Third is acts of service. Last is receiving gifts.

Abigail:  Her top love language is receiving gifts. Second is physical touch.  Third one is quality time. Lastly words of affirmation.

Aaron:  He loves praise. His top love language is words of affirmation.  Second is physical touch.

Colt:  His top love language is physical touch.  Second is quality time.  Third is words of affirmation.

Alana:  Her top love language is receiving gifts. Second is quality time.  Third is physical touch.

As a parent I believe we should know how our children feel loved.  I think we should try to know their individual love languages, and try to show them love.   We need to remember that each of our children are different and feel things differently.  So if you haven’t done so yet try to learn your child’s love language.  You might be surprised at what you discover.

-Pamela Henry

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Paper Hearts

 

img_4608I want to teach my children to be diligent and mindful of their heart.  I want them to be caring and loving, yet not leave their heart exposed.  I want my children to guard their heart with all diligence.

When it comes to matters of the heart we need to be wise.  We need to teach our children to be wise about their friendships and what they expose themselves to.   Our hearts are like paper hearts at times.  They can be blown away, torn apart, and just left behind by others.  That is why we need to teach our children how to protect their hearts.   I am not saying build a wall that no one can penetrate.  I am not saying let your heart become cold and unloving.  I am just saying to have wisdom and be diligent when it comes to the matters of the heart.

I have one daughter who is super sensitive.  She cares deeply, she loves deeply, and she is just a passionate person.   When she dives into something, she dives in with all of her heart.  Her heart gets broke and as a mom it breaks my heart.  We go over how to protect her heart without loosing her passion for others.  Oh how I wish we could save our children from all pain, but we can’t.  All we can do is love them and help them put up safe guards around their heart.

As our children grow and as they mature we want them to find meaningful relationships.   We want them to grow in Christ.  We want them to have a Christ like love for others.  We want them to show others the love of Christ.  We want them to flourish and bloom in life.   We want them to use wisdom and discernment as they go through life.  We want them to use their head and their hearts as they go on their journey.   We do not want them to have paper hearts flapping in the wind.  Teach them diligently to have  balance and have wisdom when it comes to their hearts.

-Pamela Henry

 

Chore Charts

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I have decluttered and organized every room in the house.  Now I want to keep it clean and organized.  I had a chore chart and I really tried to stay on top of it.  A few days ago I read a blog post about chore apps.  So I decided to go and find one that fit my family.  I have children ranging in age from thirteen to three.  So I needed something that would work with every child.  I also didn’t want to pay a lot.  I decided to try ChoreMonster .  ChoreMonster and Mothership work together.  Mothership lets you customize your child’s chores and rewards.  Landra also works  with Mothership, Landra is for teens only.

These apps track points for you.  It replaced the chore chart completely.  Everyone has done their chores and has done extra work for extra points.  Big win for MOM!  So if you are looking for something  to replace that chore chart check it out! Best part is it is FREE!  Yes it is free!  Got to love that!!!

If you already use a chore app that you love please share your thoughts about it in the comments.   If you decide to try these apps let me know how it works out for you.

Thank you for stopping by.

-Pamela Henry

Day 9 Decluttering and Organizing Challenge

Master Bedroom

1. Make sure you have a bin or basket for your donation and keep pile.

2. Have a trash bag and recycling bag with you.

3. I like to start with the dressers. One drawer at a time. I don’t like getting overwhelmed.

4. I like to get the top of the dresser next.

5. I like to get under the bed next.

6. Lastly the nightstands.

Dresser Drawers Done

donation bags ready to go

Thank you everyone for doing this project with me…

-Pamela Henry

Comparison Trap

stock-photo-daytime-nature-nobody-outdoors-leaf-plant-close-up-fragility-water-9c35b27c-09a3-4196-a956-12801f86dc9fWe all do it.  We all compare ourselves to someone else at one point or another.  We compare ourselves to others in different ways.  We compare ourselves to others in the areas of our lives that we are discontent with. 

 We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. We all have areas we need to grow and improve in.  We all have downfalls.  So it is unfair to yourself to compare your weaknesses with someone else’s strengths.  It is also unfair to compare your strengths to someone else’s weaknesses. 

In high school I ran track. I ran long distances and cross country.  The only person I really competed with was myself.  I was always trying to beat my time.  I didn’t compare my time to no one else’s time.  I was always trying to do better today than I did yesterday.  I look at my life as my race, my journey.  No two journeys are the same.  So I don’t compare my race to someone else’s race, because everyone’s race is different. 

I know as a mom we can look around and compare our homes, our children, our way of life, and other aspects of motherhood  with other moms.   We need to stop comparing ourselves to others.  We need to learn to examine ourselves and try to grow in areas we need to grow in. 

I love learning.  I love learning from other ladies and moms.  I love learning knew ways to do things.  I love learning how to do new things.  I can learn from ladies who are stronger in areas that I am weak in.  I can grow in those areas as I gleam wisdom from those ladies.   I can learn from them without comparing myself to them. 

Comparing yourself to others really is a trap.  A trap that is hard to get out of.  Oh if we could just see ourselves the way God sees us.  How He made us uniquely different, uniquely beautiful, and uniquely for the path He has set before us.  Oh we do need to work on our weaknesses.  We do need to always be growing and learning.  But we need to stop falling in the trap of comparing ourselves to others.

-Pamela Henry

 

Day 5 Declutter and Organizing Challenge

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Storage closet. This is the last closet in my home. It is our junk closet at times. I try to keep it organized but it still gets messy.

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Once again I start at the bottom and work my way up. I do one shelf at a time. I put everything in my keep, donate, or trash pile.

I take my keep pile and start organizing my shelves. Then put the other things in their proper places around the house.  My donation pile keeps growing with each and every closet and I am going to be dropping it off at the Good Will tomorrow.

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I am so glad to be done with closet spaces.  I am pleased with the results and love having the closets organized.  Looking forward to doing more decluttering and organizing next week. Hope you join me.

-Pamela Henry