Comparison Trap

stock-photo-daytime-nature-nobody-outdoors-leaf-plant-close-up-fragility-water-9c35b27c-09a3-4196-a956-12801f86dc9fWe all do it.  We all compare ourselves to someone else at one point or another.  We compare ourselves to others in different ways.  We compare ourselves to others in the areas of our lives that we are discontent with. 

 We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. We all have areas we need to grow and improve in.  We all have downfalls.  So it is unfair to yourself to compare your weaknesses with someone else’s strengths.  It is also unfair to compare your strengths to someone else’s weaknesses. 

In high school I ran track. I ran long distances and cross country.  The only person I really competed with was myself.  I was always trying to beat my time.  I didn’t compare my time to no one else’s time.  I was always trying to do better today than I did yesterday.  I look at my life as my race, my journey.  No two journeys are the same.  So I don’t compare my race to someone else’s race, because everyone’s race is different. 

I know as a mom we can look around and compare our homes, our children, our way of life, and other aspects of motherhood  with other moms.   We need to stop comparing ourselves to others.  We need to learn to examine ourselves and try to grow in areas we need to grow in. 

I love learning.  I love learning from other ladies and moms.  I love learning knew ways to do things.  I love learning how to do new things.  I can learn from ladies who are stronger in areas that I am weak in.  I can grow in those areas as I gleam wisdom from those ladies.   I can learn from them without comparing myself to them. 

Comparing yourself to others really is a trap.  A trap that is hard to get out of.  Oh if we could just see ourselves the way God sees us.  How He made us uniquely different, uniquely beautiful, and uniquely for the path He has set before us.  Oh we do need to work on our weaknesses.  We do need to always be growing and learning.  But we need to stop falling in the trap of comparing ourselves to others.

-Pamela Henry



Day 5 Declutter and Organizing Challenge


Storage closet. This is the last closet in my home. It is our junk closet at times. I try to keep it organized but it still gets messy.


Once again I start at the bottom and work my way up. I do one shelf at a time. I put everything in my keep, donate, or trash pile.

I take my keep pile and start organizing my shelves. Then put the other things in their proper places around the house.  My donation pile keeps growing with each and every closet and I am going to be dropping it off at the Good Will tomorrow.


I am so glad to be done with closet spaces.  I am pleased with the results and love having the closets organized.  Looking forward to doing more decluttering and organizing next week. Hope you join me.

-Pamela Henry

Day 4 Decluttering and Organizing Challenge

Today I am tackling the linen closet.

I just did a big donation of sheets and blankets last year. So I only have a few items for donation out of the linen closet.

Also if you have old towels or one with holes you can cut them into kitchen rags. That is a good way to up cycle and save money.


donation pile


So glad I am almost done with closets. Tomorrow I have one tiny storage closet to declutter and organize.

-Pamela Henry

Day 3 of Decluttering and Organizing Challenge

Today we are tacking the boys’ closet.

img_4810img_4816All these clothes were in the wrong spot!

So, I got my donation pile going. Had to get a dirty clothes bag for this project. Then put the to small clothes and shoes in the keep pile.

Remember to have a box or bin for the keep and donation pile.

Donation box

Once again I start at the bottom and work my way up. Starting with clothes and shoes. I also try to get all the torn, stained, and to small clothes out of the closet space. This isn’t a fun task but a necessary one.

Next I tackle the toys and games. Just go through and trash any broken toys. You can trash or donate games with missing pieces. I like to donate games they no longer play or outgrew. Toys that will be passed down can be put into the keep pile.

I always declutter, then clean, then organize the space.

img_4823I just want to thank you for doing this challenge with me……

-Pamela Henry

Day 2: Decluttering and Organization Challenge

We are tackling the Girls closet!


Yes, it is a mess! Yes, it needs a lot of work!

1. Get your keep box, donation box, and trash bag ready.

2. Jump in and start. I like to start at the bottom and work my way up.

3. Declutter first! Then organize.

I like to start with the shoes. Go through and see what is to small or torn. Toss the torn up shoes.  If you are saving shoes for a younger sibling put in the keep pile and put in proper bin later.  If you are donating go ahead and put in donation box.

Second, go through toys and stuff animals.  Broken toys get tossed.  If it is a toy being handed down to younger sibling then put in the keep pile. Same thing with stuff animals.

If you haven’t gone through their hanging clothes yet.  This would be a good time to go through and take down clothes that are to small.    If keeping clothing for a younger sibling put into the keep pile to put in proper bin later.  If donating then go ahead and put into the donation box.

After I get the bottom done and the hanging clothes done. I like to tackle the top shelves.  Again go through things and donate, trash, or put in keep pile.

Lastly I try to get the donation box out of the house into the garage or storage area. I try to get it ready to get out of the house by the weekend.  I take the keep pile and try to get everything put into its proper place. Putting toys away in their proper home, shoes in their proper home or bin, putting clothes into their proper bin.  Also get that trash bag to the trash.


Finished product

I started with the closets because they can become the catch all in our space. I know that the closet spaces in my home can get pretty bad, especially in the children’s rooms.  I just love a clean closet space. It makes my mom heart happy.

-Pamela Henry

P.S. Thank you for joining me.  Please like, comment, and share.

Organizing tools

It doesn’t cost anything to declutter. Some people like to sale the items and some people like to donate them. Either way it feels good to declutter your space.

Here are a few things I like to use for organizing. Old baby wipe boxes, spaghetti jars, pickle jars, and dishpans.

These are pictures of how I use them in the bathroom. .


I will get to decluttering the bathroom in a few weeks…..Just wanted to show you some cheap and practical ways to use what you have to organize your space. Organizing doesn’t have to be expensive.

Here I use the dishpans to organize the children’s toys.

I got these dishpans from Walmart for $.96 each. I love using them to organize all of my spaces.

I will be sharing more ideas as we go along.

-Pamela Henry


Declutter and Organization Challenge

First step to organizing a space is decluttering. I know how hard it is to get rid of stuff, but if you want to be organized you have to declutter. You can spend hours organizing but if you have to much stuff it will become a disorganized mess again.

I like having a keep box. A donation box and a trash bag when I go into any space I am trying to get organized.

Today I am starting with my closet.

This is the before picture

Donation pile and trash bag

Keep pile and papers to go through

Finished product.

Donation pile 1.

Closet 1 done.

  1. Go through your clothes and shoes.  Toss anything that is torn or just to worn out.  Also go through any shelves or boxes and toss anything that is trash.
  2. Like I said before have a place to put all donation items.  Good rule of thumb is if you haven’t worn it in over a year it is time to consider donating it.
  3. Remember organizing can be cheap and simple.  I actually use baby wipe containers, spaghetti jars, boxes, and dishpans to help me organize my closet.

-Pamela Henry

P.S. Please leave comments in the comment section.  Let me know if I need to add anything in this series, and thank you for decluttering and organizing with me.

Word of The Year

Drumroll please…….

The Family’s word of the year is…

  1. Focus on the Lord
  2. Focus on our Walk with God
  3. Focus on doing our best
  4. Focus on being kind
  5. Focus on how we spend our time
  6. Focus on being forgiving

There are so many aspects of life we need to refocus on, to zoom in on. Things we need to stop focusing on and put our focus elsewhere.  2018 I want the Henry Clan to zoom in and put their focus on the Lord.  I don’t want us to focus on the chaos around us but to keep our eyes on the Lord.  I want to keep following Him in 2018

-Pamela Henry

Unexpected Journey


When I started out on this journey with my husband I did not picture the journey that we are on now.  I had a completely different journey or path painted in my mind.   I pictured a house full of children, but I never pictured a child with special needs.  That was a path I did not foresee.

Five and a half years ago,  Aaron was 2 1/2 years old,  He started to regress.  He stopped talking.  He stop building with the blocks and Legos.  He stopped drawing and coloring.  He stopped hitting his baseball off of the tee.   He stopped pretending.  He was regressing more and more each day.  We didn’t really know what was going on.  Aaron was our 4th child and this was the first time this had happened.  At first the doctor thought the behavior was because we had a new baby.  As time went on we thought maybe it was his hearing.  After we had his hearing tested we found that was not the problem.  We still had a lot of unanswered questions.  Finally when Aaron was five and a half years old we got a diagnosis.  Our son was moderately severe autistic.

So this journey that we are on is not one we choose but God has chosen for us.  I am so thankful for all of my children.  I love each one for who they are.  I also love Aaron for who he is.  I have learned a lot on this journey.  I have learned a lot about myself and others.  I have learned how love needs no words.  I have learned how my son communicates.  Well most of the time, there are still times we both get frustrated because I just don’t understand what he needs or wants.  I have learned to let go and let God lead me on this path that He has placed me on.

Lastly, I am thankful for this unexpected journey.  It is not one I would have chosen, but I am grateful for the son God has given me.  I am thankful for the memories of Aaron when he was talking, pretending, playing, building, and coloring.  I am thankful for the Aaron that I have today.  I am thankful for the joy that he has brought to my life from the first time the  doctor  placed him in my arms. So if you find yourself on an unexpected journey just put your trust in the one that guides your footsteps.  Trust that He loves you and is with you on each step of your unexpected journey.

~Pamela Henry

Called to Cultivate

Cultivate: to nurture and help grow

As a parent I am called to cultivate.  I am called to nurture, love, and help to my children grow.

I want to cultivate a love for God and godliness in the heart of my children.  I want them to see a love for God in me.  I want them to grow closer to God each day.  I want to help them grow in their own walk with God.

I want to cultivate a love for learning.  I have to admit this is hard.  School is not always fun.  Sometimes they have to do assignments that are not fun and is hard.  I still want them to love learning.  That is why I let them pick out books to read and subjects to learn about.  I want them to seek wisdom and knowledge.  I want them to never stop learning.

I want to cultivate a look for reading.  I am a bookworm and I love reading.  I read anywhere from sixty to seventy books a year.  I always try to encourage my children to read for fun.  I want them to find the joy of finding a good book.

I want to cultivate a love and kindness for others.  I want my children to love others.  I want them to treat others with kindness.  I try to teach them the importance of being kind.  I want to them to show the love of God to others.  I want others to see Christ in them.

I want to cultivate a heart for service.  I do not know what God has planned for their future. I do know that I want them to follow God’s will for their lives.  I want them to have a heart for others.  I want them to help others in need. I want them to help others in need.

I am constantly having to cultivate these things in my own heart and life.  I need to always be growing.

-Pamela Henry